A Good Divorce in New Jersey is Possible With a Dedicated Divorce Lawyer
As our law firm recently wrote, U.S. Census numbers show that fewer first-time couples are making it to the 25-year mark in a marriage.
Whether a couple has been together for 30 years or 3, the process of divorce in New Jersey can be painful and have a long-lasting emotional impact. But an aggressive and dedicated New Jersey Divorce Lawyer can ease the transition from married to single.
There are ways to go through a good divorce, The Huffington Post recently reported. Some of the good must come through the help of each spouse. But much of the pressure and frustration of divorce can be taken away through an experienced divorce lawyer. Knowing how to negotiate, using strong argument and problem-solving, and understanding a client’s rights are all skills for an experienced divorce lawyer brings to the table.
Here are the Huffington Post tips about easing the divorce process:
Is the marriage really over? Consider couples counseling if you’re not convinced the love is lost. Even getting treatment during the divorce can help.
Can you treat your soon-to-be-ex with respect? At one point you were in love enough to get married.
Can you put the best interests of the kids ahead of your own? This can be a tough time for them and parents can use kids as a shield, which can make things worse.
Communication is key. You used to be able to talk things over. Can you do it now?
Can you avoid the courthouse? Many people believe all divorces must be decided by a judge. But handling the major issues or all the issues out-of-court saves time, money and frustration. You don’t want another person telling you how to live your life. Try to figure it out among yourselves.
Find a good attorney. A good New Jersey Divorce Lawyer can be a problem-solver and can reduce the stress and strain of divorce.
Be mature. This is a tough situation and feelings are hurt and egos are bruised. Can you try not to get overwhelmed? This is another area in which therapy and counseling can help you get through the divorce process in a more productive way.
Try not to be greedy. Many spouses want to “stick it” to the other in order to make themselves feel better. It rarely does. Conversely, you and your attorney need to stick up for your rights and ensure the future financial well-being of you and your children.
Have a game plan. Know what your goals are and what will be best to help you move on, keeping in mind your spouse is doing the same. Be realistic.
Be honest. Many spouses like to play games and try to best the other during the divorce. This will just make you feel more frustrated, angry and hurt. Try to act like adults and finish the process in as easy a fashion as possible.
If you need to speak with a divorce or child custody lawyer in Morristown, contact (973) 455-1220 or fill out the Contact Form on our website.
More Blog Entries:
Legal Help in New Jersey Divorces After Long-Term Marriages: August 16, 2011
Can You Have a Good Divorce?, by Henry Gornbein, The Huffington Post